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Khalani odekha
Zaka zingapo zapitazo ndinali ku Harare, Zimbabwe kukakamba nkhani za tchalitchi. Nditalowa mu hotelo yanga, ndinayenda masana masana m'misewu ya likulu la dzikoli. Imodzi mwa nyumba zomwe zili mkatikati mwa mzindawo zinandichititsa chidwi chifukwa cha kamangidwe kake. Ndinkajambula zithunzi pamene ndinangomva munthu akukuwa kuti, “Hey! Hei! Hei iwe!” Nditatembenuka, ndinayang’ana m’maso mwaukali wa msilikali wina. Anali ndi mfuti ndipo anali kundilozera mokwiya. Kenako anayamba kundigwedeza pachifuwa changa ndi mlomo wamfuti yake n’kundikalipira kuti, “Apa ndi malo achitetezo – sikuloledwa kujambula zithunzi kuno!” Ndinadabwa kwambiri. Malo otetezedwa pakati pa mzinda? Kodi zimenezo zikanatheka bwanji? Anthu anayima n’kutiyang’ana. Zinthu zinali zovuta, koma chodabwitsa n’chakuti sindinachite mantha. Ndinayankha modekha kuti, “Pepani. Sindimadziwa kuti kuno kuli chitetezo. Sindidzajambulanso zithunzi.” Msilikaliyo anapitiriza kukuwa mwaukali, koma pamene ankakuwa kwambiri, ndinayamba kutsitsa mawu. Apanso ndinapepesa. Kenako panachitika chinthu chodabwitsa. Nayenso, pang’onopang’ono anatsitsa mawu ake (ndi mfuti yake!), anasintha kamvekedwe kake ka mawu, ndipo anamvetsera kwa ine m’malo mondiukira. Patapita nthawi tinakhala ndi macheza osangalatsa omwe pamapeto pake adanditsogolera ku malo ogulitsira mabuku!
Pamene ndinachoka ndi kubwerera ku hotelo yanga, ndinakumbukira mwambi wodziŵika bwino wakuti: “Kuyankha modekha kumachepetsa mkwiyo.” ( Miyambo 1 Kor.5,1). Kupyolera mu chochitika chodabwitsachi, ndinaona chiyambukiro chodabwitsa cha mawu anzeru a Solomo. Ndinakumbukiranso pemphero lachindunji m’maŵa umenewo kuti ndidzagawana nanu pambuyo pake.
Mu chikhalidwe chathu si mwambo kupereka yankho mofatsa - m'malo mosiyana. Timakakamizika "kutulutsa malingaliro athu" ndi "kunena zomwe tikumva". Ndime ya m'Baibulo mu Miyambo 15,1 zikuwoneka kuti zimatilimbikitsa kupirira chilichonse. Koma wopusa aliyense akhoza kufuula kapena kutukwana. Zimatengera khalidwe lochuluka kwambiri kukumana ndi munthu wokwiya ndi wodekha komanso wodekha. Ndi za kukhala ngati Khristu m'moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku (1. Johannes 4,17). Kodi zimenezo sizosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita? Ndaphunzira (ndipo ndikuphunzirabe!) mfundo zofunika kwambiri pochita ndi munthu wokwiya komanso kuyankha modekha.
Perekani zinazo ndi ndalama yomweyo
Kodi sizoti mukamakangana ndi wina, mnzakeyo amayesa kubwezera? Ngati wotsutsayo anena mawu odula, ndiye kuti tikufuna kumuchepetsa. Akayamba kukuwa kapena kukuwa, timakuwa kwambiri ngati zingatheke. Aliyense akufuna kukhala ndi mawu omaliza, kugunda komaliza kapena kuwomba komaliza. Koma ngati tingochepetsa mfuti zathu osayesa kutsimikizira kuti winayo ndiwolakwika komanso samachita ndewu, ndiye kuti winayo nthawi zambiri amakhala pansi. Mikangano yambiri imatha kupitilizidwa kapena kusinthidwa ndi mayankho omwe timapereka.
Mkwiyo wolakwika
Ndinaphunziranso kuti ngati wina akuoneka kuti watikwiyira, zinthu sizikhala monga momwe timaganizira. Woyendetsa wamisala yemwe wadula njira lero sanadzuke m'mawa uno ndi cholinga chokuchotsani panjira! Samakudziwani, koma amadziwa mkazi wake ndipo amukwiyira. Inu basi munali mu njira yake! Kukula kwa mkwiyo uwu nthawi zambiri kumakhala kosafanana ndi kufunika kwa zomwe zidapangitsa kuti zichitike. Kulingalira kumalowetsedwa ndi mkwiyo, kukhumudwitsidwa, kukhumudwitsidwa, komanso kudana ndi anthu olakwika. Ichi ndichifukwa chake timakumana ndi dalaivala wankhanza mumsewu, kasitomala wamwano pamalipiro kapena bwana wolalata. Simuli omwe mumakwiyira nawo, chifukwa chake musatengere mkwiyo wawo panokha!
Monga momwe munthu amaganizira mumtima mwake, momwemonso ali
Ngati titi tiyankhe munthu waukali mwa kuyankha modekha, mitima yathu iyenera choyamba kukhala yolondola. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi malingaliro athu kaŵirikaŵiri adzawonekera m’mawu athu ndi khalidwe lathu. Buku la Miyambo limatiphunzitsa kuti “mtima wa munthu wanzeru udziwika ndi mawu ochenjera.” ( Miyambo 1:6,23). Monga momwe chidebe chimatunga madzi m’chitsime, lirime limatenganso zimene zili mu mtima n’kuzithira. Ngati gwero lili loyera, momwemonso lilime lilankhula. Ngati lili lodetsedwa, lilimenso lidzalankhula zodetsedwa. Pamene maganizo athu aipitsidwa ndi maganizo owawa ndi aukali, mmene timachitira ndi munthu waukali kugwada m’mawondo kudzakhala nkhanza, zachipongwe, ndi zobwezera. Kumbukirani mawu akuti: “Mayankhidwe ofatsa abweza mkwiyo; koma mawu opweteka amayambitsa mkwiyo.” ( 1 Akor5,1). Zikhazikitseni izo. Solomo anati: “Uzisunge pamaso pako nthawi zonse, ndipo uzisunge mumtima mwako; Pakuti aliyense wozipeza zimabweretsa moyo ndipo zimapindulitsa thupi lake lonse.” (Miy 4,21-22 NKHA).
Nthawi zonse tikakumana ndi munthu wokwiya, timakhala ndi chosankha cha mmene tingachitire naye. Komabe, sitingayese kuchita zimenezi mwa ife tokha ndi kuchita mogwirizana ndi zimenezo. Zimenezi zimandifikitsa ku pemphero langa limene lalengezedwa pamwambapa lakuti: “Atate, ikani maganizo anu m’maganizo mwanga. Ikani mawu anu pa lilime langa kuti mawu anu akhale mawu anga. Mu chisomo chanu ndithandizeni kukhala monga Yesu kwa ena lero.” Anthu okwiya amawonekera m’miyoyo yathu pamene sitiyembekezera. Khalani okonzeka.
ndi Gordon Green
